"If it is welcome,
If you do not follow us "
Zen saying
We all want love. We are all looking for some lasting relationship. But it always seems as if relationships are difficult to find it difficult to hold and enjoy.
Although many people can do everything they produce, the problems, complications and disappointment.
But
Zen term, to fight on, to find and keep love is the opposite of what is needed. First, we must learn to "do nothing". We mustlearn to let go of control.
Rena
started Zen practice after losing two important relationships. Shaken, she was convinced that he could never hold to love.
He said the Zen master, "I can not bear to miss even one other person."
"You lose a lot," said the
Zen master.
Rena gasped.
"Inevitable".
"What can I do?" Rena shot back.
"Do nothing:
Zen master said.
This "do nothing" is active and vital,the opposite of passivity.
To understand this we must take a step back.
We were born to make our world and the people to control it.
We cried for food from the mother, smiling, we crave the attention and when our needs are not met kick up a fuss. As children, we believe that others are here simply to provide us and the content.
This kind of attitude can overcome very difficult. In fact, one can say that 99% of our energy goes into his precious lifecontrol others, so that our desires are fulfilled.
What we call love in relationships is not often that someone who makes us feel good.
The
way in which Zen is the opposite.
We do not try to use other control events or a request to fulfill the life of our dreams. Instead, we grow to know and accept that everything is given, and learn to take care of the world, that we, like us, something strange happens, we will take your life happier and more.
As we grow in compassion andSimplicity, all we really need, then, of course.
Leisure
The only real miracle is to stand still. -Henry Miller
Unfortunately, the idea of "doing nothing" has been much misunderstood.
This does not mean being passive. Quite the contrary. Doing nothing is the most difficult, demanding, revolutionary statement that can be given.
It means facing the challenges of life - letting go of control.
Learn to do this in
Zen meditation we are given This statement - "Do not move." Normally you move (and react) all the time.
If something bothers us, we move, we can change our position to do everything we can to resolve it.
Even if the condition our behavior changes for a while ', it is usually new, sometimes more, sometimes in another form. Similarly, no matter what measures we take, the relationships, often there is nothing that the difficulties that take you away.
When you give us control over the state so we can get thingsas they are.
Let the whole world to play in front of our eyes.
This implies a profound effect immense respect for the intrinsic nature of people and events to a larger design of the universe, which brings our good to us, and what does not belong anymore.
How many times we try to capture and hold what is no longer adequate, or desperate ploy to get what could be wrong. If we do not control, but guess what 'happens (or what comes our way) we surrender to a higher wisdom and makes life just to take its course.
The real action
If we are in a difficult situation, our actions create more exciting and more complications.
These actions are not really, but the reactions. real action is another thing.
It 'clear, spontaneous, determined and direct.
To get to the real action, we first need to do anything.
That is, we must stop doing what we used to do, cease our knee snap reactions, stop living like Sisyphus, rolling the same rock, the same mountain.
We must be able to stop taking our usual route temporary discomfort.
How many do we bother to dissolve naturally. We are not the flames.
We do not play other than a summer rain in a thunderstorm, which can rip a complex relationship.
Faced with a difficult knot in a relationship, or if you try to find someone new to love - not to squirm and struggle, not specifiedin a fight. give up "do nothing" control.
Stay centered and immovable in the midst of the storm and see what life is really to bring to you.
Keep clear and compassionate. Let the situation develop as it is.
Do not be occupied and acted like a leaf in the wind swirled.
Loosen the grip
Zen teaches us how to relax our grip. While this happens you begin to see each person as they really are, not as we want or demand.
We are also aware that it is not an act of love to try Change and control another.
It is an act of love to discover and appreciate who they really are.
If we let every moment, every person is just like the great work of doing nothing.
It is the work of non-interference in the primordial wisdom of the universe, which runs through all things and beings, including ourselves.
If we step back and allow you to take delivery of this harmony, we will our lives be healed and strengthened. That what is right for us, of course, anddifficult situations find their care.
If we honor and preserve life as it is given, then inevitably the life and honor holds on us.
